UNDER SIEGE FROM WOMEN FRIENDS

Under siege from women friends who are saying vicious things to me. "Your husband is having an affair"..."your son is suicidal"...I don't know how to deal with such awfulness and I don't know why women say cruel things. I don't know if it is my agegroup50s 60s or if I am overly sensitive to what they say....I would love the right book for relief. 
Yours
Under Siege
Dear Under Siege,
It sounds to us like you need some new friends! Or at least, some perspective on dealing with them. Our favourite books about female friendship are The Group by Mary McCarthy, and The Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood by Rebecca Wells. The former portrays the fortunes of a group of young undergraduates in the 1930's, taking them through contraception, sex, love, marriage, affairs and breastfeeding...and showing their friendships throughout. McCarthy's robust and incisive prose will furnish you with some witty reposts, whether they remain internal or whether you unleash them to the world. The latter novel is set over three generations, looking back from the perspective of age on girlhood, motherhood and middle age. The friendships described in this book are equally complicated in their evolution, but the book is overrall a lighter read. Reading both of these in succession will, we hope, remind you of the good sides of your female friends, and will encourage you to confront the issues that your friends are laying at your door - it could be that jeapordising your friendships is essential to finding peace of mind.
Yours,
Ella and Suse
We prescribe - The Group by Mary McCarthy
The Divine Secrets of the YaYa Sisterhood by Rebecca Wells
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