JILTED AND UNSURE

Dear Suse and Ella
My ex left me. He moved back to the other side of the country where is from and where his family is.  After 6 months he has called, apologized and told me it was the biggest mistake of his life abandoning me like he did. He wants to talk to me about it and maybe determine if there is a future for us again. I know i want him back but the hard part is trusting.  I need to find something that helps me stop being so indecisive, has a happy ending and is a tale of waiting for love despite the obstacles.
Yours,
Jilted
Dear Jilted and Unsure,
Your best literary role model is Gabriel Oak in Thomas Hardy''s Far from the Madding Crowd. Oak is the model of constancy, devotion and steadfast reliability. He is given a right royal runaround by Bathsheba Everdene, but 500 pages later, he gets his girl. Gabriel is jilted by the object of his love several times, but in this romantic but at times quite gritty novel, true love wins through. This novel would certainly help you to believe in the power of love overcoming the obstacles. While you are hesitating, however, read Siri Hustvedt's "Summer without Men", which describes a middle-aged woman whose husband has an affair, leaving him and her home for a few weeks in which she rediiscovers herself through female friendship - which is something you could be focussing on now too.
Yours,
Ella and Suse
We prescribe - Far From the Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy
The Summer Without Men by Siri Hustvedt
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  • I am astoundingly miserable that you are feeling thusly. As a woman, I can simply imagine what it might look like to do what needs to be done in fondness with a woman who anticipated getting a baby expulsion with your child, as you have no impact over what she does. I do think in any case, that everything will work itself out, and if both of you do happen to part up, I am sure another woman will encounter enthusiastic affections for you later on. You are basically being outstandingly down on yourself. You appear like a wonderful individual who is stressed over what’s to come.

    By imagiacian on 16 Feb 2017

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A SLUG WITH VISIONS OF HUMANITY • ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP ENDED, LEAVING SCARS • ADULT ACNE • AFRAID OF FAILURE • ALCOHOLIC DAUGHTER • ALONE ON A WIDE, WIDE SEA • Always wanted to be a writer • ANOREXIC • ANXIOUS ABOUT SINGLE FRIEND • AT A FORK IN THE ROAD • AVID READER, LACKING BOOK • BEREFT OF A CAT • BORED IN ALABAMA • BOTHERED AND BEWILDERED • BRAIN SHRINKING MOMMA • BROKEN • BROKEN HEART • BROKEN HEARTED - TORN BETWEEN MALE AND FEMALE BEST FRIENDS • BROKEN UP WITH GIRLFRIEND; FEELING BURNT OUT • CAN’T MOVE ON • CANDIDA REVOLTAIRE • Can’t afford to go on holiday • CAST ASIDE • CHEATED • CHRONIC PAIN • COLD HANDS AND FEET • CONCERNED ABOUT DAUGHTER • CONFLICTED PARTNERS • CRAVING FOOD CULTURE • CYNICAL STEPSON • DAILY ABUSE • DARK NIGHT OF THE SOUL • DEPRESSED AND UNABLE TO READ • DEPRESSED DURING CHRISTMAS, AND LONELY NOW • DESPERATELY WANTON GIRL • DIRECTIONLESS • EASILY BORED WITH NOVELS • EMOTIONALLY SABOTAGED BY MY MOTHER • EMOTIONS IN EXTREME • EVER THE FRIEND AND NOT THE PARTNER • EXTREME ANGER AND FRUSTRATION • FADING AWAY • FALLEN OUT WITH MY FRIENDS • FALLING IN LOVE WAY TOO FAST • FAZED AND CONFLICTED • FEAR OF CONFRONTATION • FEAR OF GETTING OLD • FERTILITY PROBLEMS • FOMO (FEAR OF MISSING OUT) • FORGING A BRIGHT NEW FUTURE • FRIEND WHO HAS LOST A CHILD LATE IN PREGNANCY • FRIENDS DAUGHTER LOST TO SUICIDE • Frightened of life • GAPING HOLE • Getting over a break-up • GIRL OF UNCERTAINTY, BOUND BY RULES • GIRL WHO DOESN’T FIT IN • GRIPPED BY LOSS • GUILTY FRIEND • HOPELESSNESS • HOUSE AND LIBRARY DESTROYED BY FIRE • I love music more than books • I no longer commute – and therefore I no longer read • I PEEK AT THE END OF NOVELS BECAUSE I WORRY THE CHARACTER MIGHT NOT MAKE IT • I wish I were famous • IN MOURNING OVER LITERARY DEATHS • INABILITY TO SIT STILL AND ANXIETY • INCONSISTENT AND NON-STUDIOUS- BUT AMBITIOUS NONETHELESS • INDECISIVE • INSECURE • INTERESTED IN EVERYTHING BUT ACHIEVING NOTHING • INVISIBLE WOMAN • ITALIAN NOVEL CURES • JILTED AND UNSURE • JOB IN LIBRARY UNDER THREAT • KICKED IN THE HEAD • LEADEN • LIVING ON THE MARGINS • LONE RANGER • LONELY AND DEJECTED • LONELY IN LOVE • LONELY IN MONOTONOUS JOB, LOSING SANITY • LOOKING FOR A SENSE OF PURPOSE • LOOKING FORWARDS • LOSS OF A SISTER • LOST • LOW WATTAGE • LOW-ENERGY PESSIMISM • MAD SCIENTIST • MARRIED TO A MAN, ATTRACTED TO WOMEN • MISSED THE BOAT • MISSING MY MOTHER-IN-LAW • MUM GOING BACK TO WORK • NEED TO LET GO • NEW CITY, NEW LIFE -BOOKS FOR 12 YEAR OLD BOY? • NEW FRIENDSHIP WITH HOLOCAUST SURVIVOR • NIGHTMARISH COLLEAGUE • NOMADIC FLANEUR • POST NATAL DEPRESSION • PREGNANT AND ALONE