FRIEND WHO HAS LOST A CHILD LATE IN PREGNANCY

Dear Ella and Suse,
I am visiting a friend at the moment who has sadly lost a child rather later during her pregnancy. I feel like being here and pampering her I am managing to help her a lot but of course, I cannot stay forever. Before I travel back to the other side of the world where I live at the moment, I would like to give her a book that will help her cope and give her some hope that somehow the memories and pain will fade eventually. It breaks my heart to always see this intense sadness just under the surface and I am afrait that she will give into it when she is alone again.
I hope that you have an idea of a novel cure.
Thanks,
Helpless Helper
Dear Helpless Helper,
We truly feel for both your friend and for you, because we know how helpless you can feel in the face of the loss of a child, at any stage of pregnancy. You are clearly being a fantastic friend and helper, and doing your best to help in every way. Your friend may find it very difficult to read at all, and it could be that audio books are now a good idea -even if she zones out during periods of listening, she may well be soothed by the voice that is reading to her. A novel that she may find distracting and compelling enough to take her into 18th century London, Michel Faber's The Crimson Petal and the White describes the ambition of a prostitute named Sugar to rise above her current walk in life. The physical conditions she has to put up with, as well as the life of the other main character in the book, Agnes, are both fascinating and shocking. This book would work well as one to take her mind to other places, while also revealing the plight of women 200 years ago without recourse to medicine and drugs. there is an excellent version available with Jilll Tanner as a reader. Alternatively your friend could read The Red Tent by Anita Diamant. Portraying the life of a young woman who lives in the time of Jacob and Joseph of Canaan. The heroine Dinah is intricately bound into the fabric of her society, and narrates the ways in which women served not only men, but also each other. The book explores menstruation, childbearing and menopause all from a Biblical viewpoint, with a difference- it is a female perspective. Dinah has to deal with birth, death, and everything in between, and she does it with incredible strength and sensitivity. Your friend will see many reflections of her own feelings of loss and despair, but will also take heart from the intense female togetheress apparent in the novel.
Yours,
Ella and Suse
We prescribe - The Crimson Petal and the White by Michel Faber, on audio
The Red Tent by Anita Diamant

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