DEPRESSED DURING CHRISTMAS, AND LONELY NOW

Dear Ella and Suse,
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

This Christmas has been a bit of a depressed emotional rollercoaster for me this year. Unfortunately, I've had a massive unrequited crush and this crush has inevitably ended in loss- a loss of something which never existed-only in my imagination- for about a couple of years! I've had quite a few of these crushes- I do tend to live in a bit of a fairytale/period drama world and this-unfortunately- has only ended in recent emotional damage on my part.
What's more, I feel so ashamed. I have such a big, loving family and a close family member has just gone away to see their family and my family has been really upset for me this Christmas- they have tried to comfort me as best as they can- but the feeling of loss remains there. I feel like I am letting my family down, being so upset about such a seemingly trivial thing-when there are so many other things to be upset about in the world. Do you know of any books by writers who know about these complex and mixed up emotions??!
Yours Sincerely
An emotional friend in need
Dear Depressed and Lonely,
Everyone has bad Christmasses sometimes, and when you have an unrequited love, things can be truly dark. We understand, and we don't think you should feel ashamed. Yes, there are more things to worry about in the world, but your own emotional rollercoaster is always what keeps your heart in your throat. In the Novel Cure, we have a cure for infatuation, and for unrequited love, and we urge you to read both of these books. For infatuation, we prescribe Jean Cocteau's beautiful "Les Enfants Terribles". This book will dazzle you with its poetic imagery, it's beautiful people and its heightened sense of reality - the fantasy world of which you speak. When the bubble within the book shatters, you will see that all such bubbles burst, and you should allow yourself instead to become infatuated with art.
For unrequited love, we give you Bel Canto, by Ann Patchett. This excellent novel takes a group of terrorists into the house of the Vice President of an unnamed Latin American country, where they hole up with a famous opera singer and her audience of 150 or so guests, stuck in a political Catch 22. The opera singer's accompanist loves her unrequitedly, and his fate is enough to give you perspective on your own tendencies to lose yourself in emotional self-immolation.
Finally, to cheer yourself up, read I Capture the Castle by Dodie Smith. This novel will make you laugh, while restoring your faith in your family to give you comfort and hope.
Happy New Year to you, from
Ella and Suse
We prescribe - Les Enfants Terribles by Jean Cocteau
Bel Canto by Ann Patchett
I Capture the Castle by Dodie Smith
  • Thank you very much for your remedy and happy New year! X

    By Esther on 02 Jan 2015
  • i thinks so We understand, and we don’t think you should feel ashamed. Yes, there are more things to worry about in the world, thanks your post

    By Suzuki Blind van on 28 Sep 2017

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